The following is uncensored, raw and possibly speaks to you. I hope it is a contribution…
Don’t look for romance to complete you – You probably won’t want to acknowledge what I’m saying or even read past this point LOL, as we are all deeply entrained and conditioned to search for this as if it were real and true. YOU are your soul mate and any communion, connections or soul contracts with anyone else are either to support you in your growth for a while, or to prompt you into growth from an uncomfortable place. There is no forever, that is co-dependence and an illusion we have bought into.
If you have experienced abuse and it still bothers you, get help – We are ready when we are ready for help, however hoping it and it’s effects will go away of it’s own accord, isn’t healthy. If you need to seek help, face it, deal with it, put it energetically back where it belongs, reclaim you and ask the Universe to transmute the energy of it into something that is a contribution to the planet. Get your body sorted as we store everything that ever happens to us in our energy field, cellular memory, neural pathways and cellular memory. (I offer abuse hold sessions if this is relevant for you).
Only through self-responsibility for ALL the crap in your life can you change – This includes the toxic people and the interactions you have/have had with them. It’s not their fault (although their choices are their responsibility). You manifested them in your life because you are an energetic match for them (even if you are victim to their persecutor, it’s on you and never about them). Deal with you and all that crap will dissolve away and guess what? You will never attract more of that stuff, ever. This is an inner path to self-discovery and a matter of honouring you and choosing differently based on awareness and growth.
Time and tide wait for no man – Stop waiting for someone else to make your life better, for the lottery win, the fantastic relationship, the pay rise or the new living situation. Those things may contribute to your choices, but they aren’t the answer to happiness. Your life is NOW. Only you can improve your life and it takes real work to do that. It’s just the way this reality works. I didn’t make up the rules, I just follow them and help others to negotiate life the best way they can too. Don’t be lazy and don’t let fear stop you. People’s biggest regret is ALWAYS what they didn’t do.
Happiness is bullshit – We are made to be joyful, ecstatic, blissful beings whose bodies are designed to be whole, healthy, healed. Most people don’t know this as they are conditioned to hate and control their body, to abuse it, think stressful thoughts and play small. All, whilst looking for something elusive called happiness which doesn’t exist and never has. Feeling good is a moment by moment job, brought about by long term good actions and decisions which align you with bodily awareness and well-being, with your spiritual nature, your inner purpose and a sense of love and contribution to others and the planet.