“Success is not measured by what you accomplish, but by the opposition you have encountered, and the courage with which you have maintained the struggle against overwhelming odds” – Orison Swett Marden
Embodying the success we create on our healing/change journey can seem frustrating and slow.
Integrating and incubating your hard work into your chemistry, means that your changes become permanent and this is essential to sustain long term success and reach for your greatness.
Time allows for us to embody new frequencies and adjust to being different, adapt to changing circumstances, new opportunities and to grieve and let go of the old.
You can’t force this stuff, which takes as long as it takes. For this reason, I tend to spread well apart my mentorship sessions as those are the clients who create the deepest most profound changes and I believe this supports that success.
Here are some perspectives that may assist with embodying your changes, so they support you to go next level.
1. NOURISH YOUR BODY WITH BODY WORK AND GOOD HABITS
Nurture your body, if you are removing trauma and doing the work of changing, that’s a lot for your body to deal with and will take a lot of energy and nutrition. Rebuilding cells at a different frequency takes a lot of effort.
You are the steward of your body. Your body is your connection with being on the earth. It is where your soul lives. If you care for it, it can care for you and facilitate you to embody your greatness. Have reiki, Access Bars, massage, use essential oils, do yoga, you know what you require.
2. HAVE A DAILY PRACTICE
Prayanama, meditation, kundalini practices, whatever works for you. If you don’t do any of this, now is a good time to start. I’ve been doing pranayama for a year and am now doing kundalini. It allows me to adapt to change faster than anything else.
I am able to relax much better, to switch between powerfully getting stuff done and resting, my immunity is better, I am much clearer, receive more inspiration and have cleared a tonne of trauma.
You will notice you stress resilience goes up and when things happen, you automatically breathe your way through them.
3. GET A COACH
Until you learn to cheer yourself on, it’s valuable having a guide who has been there and steered many others through their journey. A good coach knows where you have cognitive dissonance, resistance, fear and blocks in the body. They know what to suggest to help you get through that next level and thrive.
They can advise you powerfully and gently reflect your progress back to you, until you are ready to take the reigns. This is a unique and very special relationship which is all about benefitting you.
4. GET DONE WITH YOUR COGNITIVE DISSONANCE AND FOCUS ON THE NOW
Cognitive dissonance isn’t comfortable, but learning to reconcile the old version of you with how you feel in the present and who you are becoming is essential, to create the success you desire.- Rose Aitken
Managing CD is an essential skill you’ll learn on your journey with your own coach. Basically what that looks like is reconciling the differences between the old you and new you (and being able to do this again and again) the more you uplevel, shift and change.
Again, the people who struggle the most with this tend to be those with trauma that has been etched into the body for a long time. I have clients who feel so different after a trauma release intensive session that they struggle with why they didn’t do it a long time ago. Changing their life was as simple as booking in and being present with an expert for an hour.
Remember we are ready when we are ready and everything happens it’s own perfect devine timing.
5. RELEASE THE ENERGY OF SET BACKS AND RECALIBRATE WHEN THEY HAPPEN
Triggers can be scary and it’s normal to doubt ourselves when these arise. Just be aware you aren’t self sabotaging, undoing all your hard work or regressing.
Know that it’s normal and natural to struggle, doubt, have oops moments and make the odd stuff up. You’re human and you’ve been through much. It’s okay.
Here is an ideal opportunity to learn, seek support and establish how you can do better next time. Not allowing these things to destabilize you, will add to your confidence and clarity.
6. LEARN THE ART OF OBSERVING YOURSELF AND REALIZING WHEN THINGS ARE CHANGING – GET HAPPY/GRATEFUL
Firstly notice when you respond differently. Really notice and appreciate, amplify, acknowledge, sit with it and wonder at the small miracle you are experiencing.
No one teaches us to let things go, that we can or how to! This shit is real and whilst we all know what it’s like to add a burden to our pile, many of us have yet to understand or experience what it’s like when an old pattern disappears from our energy field and we feel space instead of stress. Perhaps some of our hyper vidgelence diminishes and we have a week where we relax more and we are suddenly at home in our own skin.
Maybe something happens and we don’t react, we reflect. We may be present in ways we haven’t been in years. We may let go of a person or habit with ease. We may experience new opportunities fall in our laps. We might stop road raging and smile at other drivers because our nervous system is becoming buff….The list goes on.
Expressing gratitude is an important part of this formula. For the opportunities you have made, for your talents, abilities and for the inspiration that arrives through you. For the help, knowledge and support you have sought out that is working for you.
The more we acknowledge this stuff, the more it becomes part of who we are on a fundamental level. The more that clears, the more space we have to fill up with new ideas, emotions, opportunities, perspectives and experiences.
7. CULTIVATE THE UNIQUE QUALITIES/PERSPECTIVES/INSIGHTS AND AWARENESSES YOU POSSESS AND VALUE THEM -SHARE THEM TO BENEFIT OTHERS
“Eventually one comes to accept that, their pathway has been necessary to become the person that is here and now. That is regardless of missed opportunities we could have enjoyed or the pain that has stimulated and birthed our transformation. If it were supposed to have been different, it would have been. You can regret what could have been or create what can be, it’s up to you” Rose Aitken
Most free thinkers didn’t get that way from a safe childhood and average, mediocre choices. Usually it takes immense pain, rigorous self examination, years of suffering and exploration of the human condition to arrive at that place.
The wisdom that comes from overcoming challenges, transcending dysfunction, trauma and limitations to become reconnected, powerful and whole is priceless.
When someone has chosen consciousness, their ego will have been ground into the dirt a million times and they will have adopted different values from the norm, ones that support a holistic and soul perspective of the human experience. There is such joy and blissfulness available in this, because in processing it all, you come to know your soul and reason for being.