With Christmas just passed and the New Year almost upon us, it’s not just the poor or elderly that can be feeling miserable. It’s often people in their 20s, 30s and 40s who may be feeling it. They may have no family, dysfunctional families, be depressed, broke, sick, or maybe their friends are away, leaving them more isolated than normal.
That sensation can be highlighted by the thought of everyone else excited and happy. It’s easy to imagine others part of big, loving, fun groups of people, enjoying presents, nice food, places and good times. Everything that would usually serve as a distraction may be shut down over the holiday period as well. This almost amplifies those aspects of life that maybe aren’t serving so well, or that feel empty and unsatisfying.
If you recognize you in some of that and it feels hopeless, please know, it can and does get better. This is an opportunity to create your life differently. There are some things you can do to have a different possibility now and in the future:
1.Recognize you are a soul having a human experience
You may be feeling detached from, separate and unsupported by others because of the way our society and families operate, but you are never alone.
You are surrounded by beings without bodies who love and support you. We all have a ‘team’ that is around us at all times, we are just not taught how to be aware of them, notice them or even how they communicate with us.
Just knowing this can ease the pain a little and give a sense of a bigger picture. Your soul is way more than the sum of your human suffering in this lifetime, but we come here without a memory of what was before. We can feel cast adrift, confused and lost as a result.
There is a bigger picture at play and there are experts who can help you gain more understanding and peace with your emotions and inner journey.
Reading some books by Doreen Virtue, going to classes or workshops can be a good start. Many begin with learning to meditate or journaling to connect with their spiritual capacities, their inner wisdom or higher self. There are many local groups or videos on Youtube available which may help.
2. Understand we choose our parents, the body we are in and our challenges for each life time
If things seem overwhelming, it may be that you aren’t acknowledging the potency of you. We aren’t taught how to do this, so it’s not surprising when this happens.
We never get challenges that are bigger than us. It can seem that way when we are ill equipped with the right tools and skills to cope. Perhaps we aren’t connected with our resilience and/or we are surrounded by those who are unkind, neglectful or ill equipped to support us.
If you are encountering difficult and prolonged challenges, on some level, you are able to cope with them and part of your soul purpose for this lifetime is to out-create and expand beyond these.
Sometimes we need guidance on how we can accomplish this and to explore fresh perspectives, knowledge, information and ways of doing things.
Being comfortable NEVER got anyone to examine their spiritual capacities, look beyond what they already know and ask bigger questions.
If you are asking those questions, there is a reason. That is something to celebrate and get excited about.
3. Stop seeing yourself as a victim and do things differently
Often we may experience things we don’t know how to handle when young which may leave us feeling stricken, vulnerable or traumatized. Or our role models and family members may be chronic victims or have chaotic personalities. We then absorb this way of looking at the world and can begin to experience this as our truth.
We aren’t born with a manual for handling this reality, nor do most of us get to learn about consciousness before we are thrown out into life. However, it is never too late to unlearn dis-empowering perspectives and connect with our own guidance and wisdom.
Empathetic people may struggle more than most as their extra level of awareness. When others dislike them or are judging them is often overwhelming.
Your empathy is actually a super power once you know how to use it for you and not against you. As a recovering empath myself, I know it is infinitely possible to have a happy, easy and potent life. You can actually have some pretty cool advantages, once you know how to create that way.
Come and do an empowering workshop in the New Year, seek out some coaching sessions or some new personal development practices.
4. Take two more steps forward
Whatever that looks like for you, just take those steps…
Whether it is taking a nice bath, imagining something you are looking forward to, cleaning the house, having a clear out, eating your favorite food, posting on Facebook, calling a friend or visiting the library.
Maybe it is going for a walk, seeing a movie or listening to something soothing and good for the soul on You tube.
I highly recommend Matt Kahn, Bentinho Massaro or Esther Hicks chanelling Abraham if you are looking for upliftment, new knowledge, comforting vibes and inspiration.
5. Never give in and never give up!
You are way more powerful than you know and way more magical and capable than you have ever been lead to believe.
Unfortunately most of us are entrained to unconsciousness and fear through our conditioning, rather than empowered to find the greatest expression of us and to operate from there.
Whatever is bothering you whether it is situational or deeper than that, it can change. You can change it with the right tools, knowledge and support and with self awareness and determination.
We are taught to believe that we should accept our lot in life, but this is a lie of magnitude. If you are fed up it’s because you know something greater is possible for you and for the planet. If you don’t fit it, it’s because you are probably here to help build a better, new world.
There is such a different possibility available to us all, once we start to undo our programming and look at things from our own potency. That takes some work, but it is the real job we are here to do. It’s not about paying the bills till we die.
You are a beautiful soul, you are here for a reason and I would like to thank you for stopping by and reading this post.
If you want to chat, please send me a message