For many years I was so depressed I was suicidal. I am talking about two decades of my life. What had happened to me was that I was shame based, carrying tonnes of trauma and had no support/familial connections to sustain me in the world. I was lacking vital information about life and my physiology was working against me.
Now I’ve healed much of my trauma, my physiology is working completely differently, I have sought out the skills and information I was lacking before and I have evolved into someone I would have never become without those experiences as a driver to invoke change.
Here’s what I know that is vastly different (and light years ahead of the popular narrative on this subject). Depression is a normal, natural reaction to pain and trauma. By the way this point of view has recently been validated by neuroscience – we just have to wait for the mainstream to catch up!
Depression is your body’s way of slowing you down so you can heal and make some changes. It’s actually a normal reaction to abnormal, traumatic or difficult circumstances. There may be a whole lot less wrong with you than you think.
Depression (with the exception of a very tiny percentage of the population who have an actual chemical imbalance) isn’t a life sentence, nor a mental illness, nor a ‘condition’ from which you will suffer for the rest of your life (particularly if you desire to change it and are willing to do the work of changing yourself). It’s actually a sign you are really healthy and your body is working as it should, so you can recover your balance and powerfully move forwards.
Now don’t get me wrong here, as I’ve already said, I’ve personally been there and have thankfully come out the other side. I know depression is terrifying, seems overwhelming and can be utterly paralyzing and stop us in our tracks. Usually we don’t see it coming, because we think whatever we’ve been through is ‘normal’ and we don’t know what we don’t know. Severe symptoms is a sign of how much pain and trauma you are carrying. That’s it, you’re not broken (even though it can very much feel like that). It’s actually good news.
There’s nothing wrong with chosing not to address the reasons for your depression and/or taking medication now or for the rest of your life if you decide to. This is not about negating your experience or choices, it is about empowering you to ask questions and seek your deepest truth, so you can get free whatever that looks like for you.
1. You are infinitely powerful and may need reminding of how to connect with this
Sometimes we need guidance to touch base with our power and potency, explore fresh perspectives, knowledge, information and ways of doing things.
We may have had things happen that disconnected us completely from our power. Or we may have used our power without understanding it and been sanctioned for it. Either way, we tend to shut it down, interpreting events through a filter of shame and self blame.
If this is the case, we tend to also miss the opportunity to learn resilience as we are survival based. Therefore we don’t trust ourselves or life and normal events such as a relationship breakup can send us into a depression or trigger severe anxiety. The trouble is, we look to the now and don’t realize the connection that goes way back.
Just know if you are being majorly challenged, you are being invited (indirectly) to connect with your greatness and courage and outcreate not only the current circumstances, but to heal so you can become your highest self expression and reach your potential.
If I can do this, anyone can, you just have to want it and believe that you can use your pain to inspire and motivate your growth and development.
2. You are a soul having a human experience in a difficult world
Our Western society is absolutely toxic in many ways (and wonderful in others). We typically aren’t taught about our spiritual nature, our purpose, connection to the devine and to the planet and or one another.
Therefore, we are ill equipped to support our psychological growth from a soul perspective. When you add the degree of separation from each other, lack of support because most of us are survival based and operating in a capatalist world, depression and anxiety is inevitable.
Just knowing this can ease the pain a little and give a sense of a bigger picture. Your soul is way more than the sum of your human suffering in this lifetime, but we come here without a memory of what was before. We can feel cast adrift, confused and lost as a result.
There is an abundance of knowledge, wisdom and inspiration that is out there much of it for free and it can assist you to start to connect deeply. Challenges that stop us in our tracks mean we choose self actualization this time around. Embrace it and I highly recommend having body work and doing a daily body practice to integrate this into your body and brain.
3. Remember you have a choice how you see yourself and how you tell your narrative
This is a biggie and as the more we re-learn to feel safe and empowered, the less we feel victimized and can trust our journey and ourselves.
It’s understandable we may operate from a victim paradigm as a sort of automatic pilot, until we are ready let go and thrive. It is often conditioned into us and if we have trauma, it can seem like we are at the effect of life and are not in control of our journey.
We aren’t born with a manual for handling this reality, nor do most of us get to learn about consciousness before we are thrown out into life. This can feel shocking and make us want to give up, but we are stronger than we realize even when it seems like we are fragile and life is falling apart.
Once we start to connect with this on a soul level, it liberates us from making old suffering dictate our path. We can change the beliefs and narrative holding it all in place and benefit in ways that we often don’t see until we are there.
It is never too late to unlearn dis-empowering perspectives and connect with our own guidance and wisdom.
5. Never give in and never give up!
Where ever in this world are we entrained to our greatness, our magic and our possibilities? We are not and if normal day to day life feels like it is suffocating you, maybe you are meant for greater things!!!! I wish I could get more people to embrace this idea. If you feel excited/lit up or even a tiny bit of hope reading this, it’s true for you.
We are taught to believe that we should accept our lot in life, but this is a lie of magnitude. If you are fed up it’s because you know something greater is possible for you. If you don’t fit in, it’s because you are probably here to help build a better, new world.
There is such a different possibility available to us all, once we start to undo our programming and look at things from our own potency. That takes some work, but it is the real job we are here to do. It’s not about paying the bills till we die.
You are a beautiful soul, you are here for a reason, thank you for taking your time to read this post.