Anxiety can seem like a tricky adversary and progress in terms of changing it is often slow, however there are an ever increasing range of solutions available which take into account the science of the body, our psychology and the way that energy works, to create dynamic shifts and a new sense of empowerment for those affected.
In today’s fast paced, over polluted world where people live a disconnected, stressful lifestyle and are overstimulated, under loved, unsupported, over medicated, addicted, and often malnourished, it’s no surprise people are either not present or experience mild to severe symptoms of anxiety.
For the purposes of this article, I’m not speaking about low key generalized thoughts of worry that people often refer to as anxiety, I’m talking about episodes of anxiety usually in social or work situations that are intense and disabling.
STRATEGIES FOR HANDLING ANXIETY
TOOL: AT THE ONSET OF ANXIETY ASK – WHAT AM I AWARE OF HERE AND WHAT IS THIS DISCOMFORT TELLING ME?
if you are empathetic and highly aware of others, you may be noticing someone else’s judgments of themselves or others (or even of you) and you may feel either very contracted or uncomfortable around them for reasons you cannot explain.
Are there consistent places, people and things around which your anxiety always seems to be triggered? What are you aware of with those people, places and things that you haven’t acknowledged?
With this tool, I’ve often imagined zooming outwards from my body and looking at the situation from a helicopter focus to see clearly what I’m noticing. The change of focus, often lets forth a flood of information.
Clue – we don’t often feel lousy around people who have our back or in situations that are nurturing of us or aligned with who we really are.
TOOL: ASK YOURSELF, WHAT HAVE YOU DECIDED IS TRUE ABOUT YOURSELF THAT ISN’T THAT IS CONTRIBUTING TO YOUR ANXIETY?
When we have a background of anxiety, we tend to be triggered easily into a cycle of thoughts that lead us down a familiar path…
Often underlying the triggers at play are deeply held beliefs such as “I’m inferior to these people”, “They are more powerful than me”, “They’ll see through me and realize how terrible/awful/lousy I am”.
A great therapist or coach can really assist with helping unearth what is playing out for you in terms of faulty beliefs that are being triggered based on old experiences or conditioning.
TOOL: WORK WITH YOUR BODY FOR GREATER EASE
The reason that mind based solutions often don’t work with something like anxiety, (or only shift about 10% of the problem) is that similar to computers, we store everything that happens to us as electrical circuitry in the body.
Therefore, all our previous issues contributing to our anxiety, all our fears, all our circular thinking, all our evidence of ourselves as anxious is stored in our energy field, neural pathways, cellular memory and muscle memory.
Find a body based solution such as Access Bars, EFT or pulsing that gives your body the opportunity to release all that stuff so YOU can benefit from the hard work you are doing in changing your life.
TOOL: SHIFT YOUR FOCUS AWAY FROM WHAT OTHERS MIGHT THINK AND ONTO WHAT YOU THINK
“I used to walk into a room and wonder if people liked me, now I look around and wonder if I like them” Unknown
This tool is valuable for people who have always discounted themselves in relation to others and made other people’s opinions more valuable than their own. Using it can eventually become fun (as your confidence grows) and give you such a different sense of a situation and yourself in relation to others.
Ultimately EVERYONE has insecurities, everyone shows up differently in each situation with their own set of worries and judgments and struggles. We just don’t tend to see that when we are rushing about and consumed by our own hassles and fears.
ADVANCED TOOL: WHAT CAN YOU CONTRIBUTE TO A SITUATION THAT CHANGES EVERYTHING?
When we are focused on feeling wrong and scared and our bodies letting us know that, it’s a pretty rough ride.
When we can go into a situation focused on putting others at ease and helping create an amazing event or evening for yourself and others, something shifts within us that is both powerful and relieving.
ADVANCED TOOL: START SEEING YOUR ANXIETY AS A PATHWAY TO A DIFFERENT POSSIBILITY
What if on the other side of anxiousness lay empowerment, freedom and a different possibility that you’ve never considered? Feel light and expansive? That’s because it’s true for you.
Many of us have felt so wretched and wrong from anxiety, but instead of fighting it and feeling exhausted from it, what if you could use it to serve you and in accessing what is behind it, you got free of a whole lot of emotional baggage you no longer need?
Anxiety is the body’s way of letting us know that we have unhealed stuff to work through, that certain choices, people or situations aren’t right for us (or aren’t at the moment) or that we are aware of stuff we aren’t acknowledging.
What would happen if you could unlock the gift of your anxiety to become more aligned with who you are and what is right for you and your soul?